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Renee Griffin says:
August 22, 2010 at 11:28 pm
Before I take the time to read the great responses, I just want to thank Höllenhund for responding so politely and patiently even though I made a similar comment over at Roissy’s :)

I guess I like reading other people’s take on this topic. Personally I know that there are reasons for the double standard but I question whether they’re right and ok. Like if people are fine with it or do they think it should be do away with.

But anyway, off to read the comments ;)

Susan Walsh says:
August 23, 2010 at 10:51 am
@Renee
As I’ve said, I don’t think it is possible to do away with the double standard. Certainly the 40+ years since the Sexual Revolution has made little difference. However, if one could eliminate it, I wonder what that would mean for relationships. If men didn’t care about a woman’s sexual faithfulness enough to attempt to gauge it before marriage, for example. Or if women everywhere stopped competing for men, including using sex as a way to get access to commitment. Would monogamy survive at all? What would that mean to family life?

Renee Griffin says:
August 25, 2010 at 7:47 pm
Thanks for the responses, especially yours Brendan :)

I guess it’s possible to understand the basis of something and not be fine with it at the same time ;)

A few things.

—Susan,
I guess what I meant about doing away with the double standard is that both sexes are expected to be chaste, or at least not have sex with numerous partners, or expect both to be selective of their partners or who they sleep with.

—One reason that I hate the double standard is because of the confusion that it causes in young people. Also, (and I think this is due in part to the double standard) while the girls are the focus of many discussions about sex, the boys are kind of left to the wayside – left to fend for themselves for the most part and have sex, which is very problematic since you’re only talking to a half of a population. People make a big deal about girls loosing their virginity at a young age, but not a peep about the boys most of the time.