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This thread is a welcome reprieve from all that. It really heartens me to see married commenters de-lurk and say positive things about marriage! I think it would be great if we could get more positive threads going every once in a while, sometimes the conversations we have here make me want to crawl into a hole. Being positive doesn’t necessarily have to mean being “blue pill”.

126Susan Walsh February 18, 2013 at 1:43 pm
Sure, in real life. However, online, it’s difficult to tell the difference between the silence of rapt attention, vs. the silence of nobody paying attention at all. And I mean this is the most genuine way. Nobody wants to talk to an empty room, ya know?

Yeah, I do know. Fair enough. It’s good that you put it out there, as some commenters stepped forward with good questions.

127J February 18, 2013 at 1:47 pm
Lovely wife and cute kids.

I see you have a redhead in the bunch! I get a huge kick out of red hair. My mom and her brother were redheads.

128Mr. Nervous Toes February 18, 2013 at 1:47 pm
See OTC, you are successfully livening up this thread by making an uncontroversial topic controversial! Wasn’t so hard, was it.

129J February 18, 2013 at 1:53 pm
I don’t think Megaman has a problem with you in particular. More like the attitude that you bring to the table, the same attitude that many other male commenters bring (“the world is out to get us, and we’ve suffered enough – time to make bitches pay”).

Hate to say it, OTC, but I agree with this too. I feel that you sometimes snap at me personally due to this attitude (and certain things that I say about myself rubbing you the wrong way). I usually just blow it off, but I do think you come off as unduly negative.

130Jackie February 18, 2013 at 1:57 pm
@OTC
Hi OTC,

First, your family is absolutely adorable! Congratulations! :)

I think– and this could be completely wrong– that I read many of your posts through a lens of someone who has suffered spiritual abuse. That can leave serious, serious scars and (usually) displaced anger. I think that anger can show up in many areas, if the pain beneath it is not addressed.

And I’m not sure where the “elite” angle fits in, as you reference it, but you remind me of when I have had a chip on my own shoulder about feeling “less than.” You continually reference yourself as “low SMV” when you have this beautiful family that you support, good health and fitness and, apparently, you and your wife have sex, like, 50 times a day! :shock: